(sorry i’m not sorry i’ve been a total sponge this summer)
i’m a week away from starting my new job at a ~fancy and well-reputed cultural institution where aesthetics are of the utmost importance~. as a person who
a) has lots of gender feelings (obviously)
b) sometimes gets interpellated as “dapper” despite the fact that i regularly spill food on all my clothes & have never made a policy of ironing anything
c) has spent the last four years in a place where this was all very par for the course, and
d) is about to be living with my fancy grandmother,
i’m really at a loss as to how to approach this phase of my life. i don’t think i would ever need to pass as straight at this job (and i’m so grateful for that), but i do have to wonder how i’m going to be read. if i wear a tie and a blazer made for women, does that set me squarely in L Word-style ~fashionable lesbian~ territory? because if so, well… beurk. if i go more butch i feel like i’ll come off as more working class than my position wants me to be, and that is a complicated and fucked up thing.
while i try to sort this out i’ve been hoarding cheap androj oxfords (shoes & shirts alike) and trawling the internet for fag-masculine jewelry (collar clips, cufflinks, lapel pins, etc.), but all together i still don’t feel quite in my comfort zone. i guess this is all pretty premature and i’ll just have to wait it out and see how i feel once i’m a few weeks in, huh?
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dogplanet answered:
where do you work?
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kickintheeyes answered:
this is tuff stuff. if you ever need an internet shopping consultant i am here for you
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